Die Before You Die: The Courage to Awaken
“Know the Light and the Darkness.”
Are you willing to ask daring questions? Questions that chip away at the hard crust of your deepest beliefs? And most importantly, when you hear the answers that arise from within, will you have the courage to authentically change your mind, open your heart, and allow your body–mind systems to recalibrate?
What does that mean? It means that, according to the Law of Energy, matter responds to frequency—the language of energy. This energy is created by our thoughts and emotions.
When we shift our mindset and begin clearing our emotional body, our old perception, anything that does not “vibe” in harmony with the new frequencies will have to transform.
“Die before you die.”
If you are a student of transformation or inner work, you’ve probably heard this expression. It refers to detaching from the ego and personality while still inhabiting this physical body.
Now, to be clear, we are not here to kill the ego. The ego is a collection of beliefs, values, and perceptions inherited from our ancestors, parents, and social environment. It is a survival model.
Think of it like a suit. Imagine an astronaut who, from childhood, has always lived in space wearing a suit and helmet that restricts vision and shields the eyes from extreme light. He would come to believe that he IS that suit. He would not see the true light or the truth of who he is. Everything would be filtered through the suit.
That suit is our body, our five senses of perception, and our thoughts. They reveal only partial truths—relative truths.
Awakening begins when we realize we are not seeing Truth and gather the curiosity and courage to inquire: What is reality? Who am I?
“Dark Night of the Soul.”
Here is another concept you may have heard—and perhaps are experiencing right now.
These big questions often redirect and reorient your life. You may feel called to walk the path of the mystic, the spiritual path. You begin to observe more, realizing that what you see is not ultimate reality. Your old beliefs are dismantled, old wounds are healed, and your mind expands.
The dark night of the soul is this very process. You may feel disoriented, depressed, and even lost. Motivation may vanish. It feels as though you are “dying” - having a perception that that you want to leave this physical plane. It can be confusing.
The old you is transforming. Sometimes slowly, sometimes rapidly, you are removing the suit—and it leaves you feeling naked, vulnerable, and in unfamiliar territory. This is when a guide is essential. Without guidance, you may run back to old patterns and put the suit back on. Why?
Because the ego is terrified. What worked in the past will not work in this new terrain. It’s as though you crossed a river with a raft, but now that raft is too heavy to carry across land. To move forward, you must leave it behind.
Where you want to go requires releasing the old “you.”
This process can feel intense because you are living in two worlds at once: as a Divine being, witnessing this distorted reality, and as a human, still experiencing heartbreak, financial struggles, health scares, and more.
Here is where the guide helps you strengthen your connection with your Higher Self, the Divine within you, and your faith in Source, God, or Goddess.
This path of the mystic isn’t for the faint of heart. At times, it amplifies your shadow, calls forth collective darkness, and turns up the volume of the inner critic. The stronger your light grows, the louder the darkness may seem. That is why you need skills to navigate it—and that is what a guide can teach you.
“The Darkness Serves the Light.”
Do not fear the darkness. We live in a world of duality, built on the polarities of light and dark. To deny the darkness is to deny parts of ourselves—and that denial is one of the deepest sources of suffering.
The road of transformation requires us to look at everything: to sit with our shadow, the parts of ourselves we’ve suppressed or repressed. They surface so they can be healed.
In simple terms, they appear as triggers. Any time we get upset—what neuroscience calls “dis-regulation”—our wounds and baggage rise to the surface.
Let’s say a person offends, hurts, or lies to you. We call that “dark.” But in truth, the darkness has served you: it revealed where you are not yet free, where you are holding old energy that can now be healed and transformed.
Our triggers are signposts, showing us exactly where fear, anger, and sadness—the three primary emotions—still live within us.
Because these emotions belong to the past, they are baggage. They keep us stuck in survival mode, reinforcing the ego and causing us to see the world through the wounded child’s eyes.
Freedom, Peace, Love, and Joy
Everyone longs to live in these states. Yet most resist giving up the old suit—the heavy baggage.
Remember: you cannot enter new terrain—the land of Freedom, Peace, Love, and Joy, what I call Heaven on Earth—while carrying the old self. Why? Because this journey is about energy, about states of consciousness.
At every moment, we choose: love or fear, heaven or hell. It is not about a place, time, person, or thing—it is about frequency.
This is what I teach daily to my clients and through my content.
Yes, healing trauma is important. Positive thinking is important. Healthy diet, sleep, and exercise are important. But none of these alone is enough to fully embody the qualities of the Heart-Soul. Why?
Because we can get stuck endlessly healing trauma, convinced that something is wrong with us. Because thinking positively, without deep embodiment, won’t shift our energy enough to change consciousness. And because over-focusing on the body can even strengthen the ego.
I know this because I got trapped in all of those places.
As a spiritual guide and teacher, my role is not to save you. It is to point the way, to help you heal so you can tap into your true power and the healer within you. My responsibility is to tell the truth and empower you with tools and practices that help you move through traps more quickly, while uncovering the wisdom within every challenge.
I will show you the way back to your Divine Self by helping you remove what is in the way. This path is one of releasing, returning, and remembering.
“We are all just walking each other home.” – Ram Dass
Much love,
Alex
P.S.: When you are ready for this deep and liberating work, book a free call with me. Email me: Alex@alexgilcoaching.com